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I'm watching old Kung-Fu episodes right now
I had a very tiring weekend in which I didnt get much accomplished
My mother-in-law and her husband came for the weekend
My son was having his last football game
One of my pet peeves is having my days planned for me
Having people tell me what my schedule is
Especially when my schedule was already previously set
And people get mad at you because ceratin things were already planned and you wont change it
So I spent the weekend compromising between mine and their schedules
Me and my son were at the football field 2 hrs early for his 11am game
It was so cold that we both shivered in our coats for the entire morning
I watched as the Pee-Wee team players cried because of the cold
One of the star players came out crying refusing to go back into the game
One Coach told him to rub his hands together
The other told him to stick them in his pants
The kid looked so confused before finally sticking them in the front of his pants
(Which is where I would naturally stick mine)
Then my son played and they lost terribly
I cant even remember the score
He ran well and had a few yards and a few tackles
I think the presence of his grandmother motivated him
She's as nice as she wants to be
Only she likes to give orders 24/7
I've grown accustomed to her by now and usually respectfully decline or refer other people
It's my son's last football game and she wants me to go move her car closer
Its right after halftime, the beginning of the 3rd quarter
And I dont think anything outside of physical harm of a family member can get me to miss anypart of this game
She wants me to move the cars closer so they dont have to walk after the game
I want so bad to inform her that me and my family have no problem walking
Each saturday we walk to where ever we park (doesnt take longer than 5min)
But I smile and kind of shrug off the notion
Me and my youngest son move down the field to watch the remainder of the last game
And all weekend it's "can you put my coke in the freezer"
"Can you start the DVD player", "Can you put my sweater in the dryer" ,"can you turn the TV up"
"Can you hand me this, hand me that.... etc.."
And I realize where my wife gets that from
We had difficulties in our first year of marraige over that
We could be in the same 10 feet area and she would ask me to get her a glass of water
I know that sounds small, but do that repeatedly and see if your mind dont start wondering
It's not a bad thing as much as its annoying
I love doing things for the ones I love, but at the same time
There is a fine line bewteen, I need your help,
and I want you to do it for me because I dont want to
Or maybe there is a group of people who are so infatuated with a man waiting on them
Hand and foot that they abuse the ones that are closest to them
With nonstop nagging and chore request
If someone is sick, then that is another story
I am at your beckoning call at that point
If you are busy with work or another chore then I am at your service
But please dont be lying on the couch snuggled watching TV or something of that nature
and expect me to stop what I'm doing
My reasoning is that my time is just as valuable as yours
I treat others as I want to be treated
I seldom ask anybody to do anything that I cant do myself
I know that when I get old and feeble that I will need to use that
Dont want people tired of me now
As long as I can do for myself I will make every effort
I guess a lot of you dont remember when your mom or dad did you like that as a child
Go get this, run and get that, hand me the remote so I can dial the TV!...
I make it a point not to treat my kids that way
If I ask them to do something, I truly need their help
Dont want this blog coming off angry
Just want to invoke a little thought
There may be othes that are in danger of pushing those closest to them away
Simply because they are overbearing
Because they are the cause of that persons stress
Evaluate each situation you face and determine the type / amount of help you truly need
Learn to make confident decisions as a leader of self
And then you will eventually begin to successfully lead others.
One Love,
Mario D'Andre Robinson
www.zealotdandresdream.com
www.mdrart.com
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